4 reasons jealousy is a gift.

    Jealousy can be one of the most life-transforming experiences you’ll have.

    I didn’t used to think that, though.

    I used to hate feeling jealous because I didn’t know what to do with its wrenching pangs that ate away at me. No matter how I tried, I failed to wish or pray the feelings away. Worse, I knew my behavior revealed my jealousy, which made it doubly awful. Have you experienced something similar?

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     If so, I’d like to let you in on a most helpful revelation I had many twenty years ago: Our emotions tell us what we believe.

    That’s right. Our emotions reveal what we believe inside, though not necessarily what’s truly going on outside us. For example, we could be angry about something we observe happening in our family, but if we don’t know all the facts, our feelings aren’t based on the whole truth.

    Still, we can trust our feelings to tell us the truth about what we believe inside.

    Which brings us to the first reason jealousy is a gift.

1. Jealousy tells us we’re not happy.

Because jealousy is so uncomfortable, we’re inspired to rid ourselves of the feeling or, more concisely, the cause of our jealousy. If the cause weren’t there, we wouldn’t be feeling so crappy.  It is at that moment when we begin the process of eliminating the cause, our life starts changing for the better.
Why that’s true brings us to the second reason jealousy is a gift.

2. Jealousy tells us what we fear

Because jealousy makes us uncomfortable, we know there’s something we fear.  Chapter five of The Happiness Path explains how uncomfortable emotions signal that we fear something. So think of a present or past time you were jealous, and ask yourself. “What do (did) I fear?”    More often than not, you’ll probably fear something on the lines of:
–    I’ll never have what I want.
–    Other people get what I want.
Realizing these fears brings us to the third reason jealousy is a gift.

3. Jealousy tells us what we mistakenly believe.

Fears are really just beliefs. If we fear being attacked or robbed, it’s because we believe being attacked or robbed endangers our well-being. If we believe we’ll never get what we want, then on some level we believe that.

Unfortunately, beliefs have a way of becoming themselves (for a great scientific explanation of why, read The Happiness Path’s chapter four).  And, trust me, you don’t want “I’ll never get what I want” and “Other people get what I want” to become your life’s theme.

So, when you realize what you fear, and therefore believe, ask yourself, “Does that make me happy thinking that?”

My guess is that you’ll answer a thunderous NO!

Which brings us to the fourth reason jealousy is a gift.

4. Jealousy tells you what’s important for you to have to be on your life path or life purpose.

This reason is my very favorite.

Jealousy only arises when we think we can’t have something that’s important to our life purpose or life path. That explains why we’re not all jealous of the same thing. It also explains the extreme feeling jealousy conjures. In your soul, you know you’re supposed to have what the object of your envy has. It doesn’t mean they can’t or shouldn’t have it. There’s plenty for everyone. It does mean that it’s important for you to have attention, beauty, creativity, abundance, etc., while on your life path.

Jealousy asks you to focus on and intend something like: I have that too. Or, That’s for me too. Or, I’m glad that person has that, because I’m going to have it too. Whatever your new intention is, it should feel good to think about it, because ultimately, jealousy is a gift!

I like to think of it as The Law of Creating because it’s bigger than the Law of Attraction.

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 "I like to think of it as the Law of Creating because it's bigger than the Law of Attraction!"

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