Frequently-Asked Questions

Is it best to do The Happiness Path once a day or once a week?

Do I really have to write down the processing on paper?

We’ve had a tragedy in our family. I keep thinking it’s partly my fault because of my thinking.

Sometimes I’m too mad or sad to process. What then?

When I’m angry, my friends tell me I should just let it go. I’m torn. What should I do?

   At least once a day. At first when you’re just learning the process, it seems to take a bit of time. But once you’re onto how it works, the actual process gets quite efficient.
    I’ve also found that for all the little things in life (i.e., finding parking spaces, getting places on time, getting chores done, etc.) processing takes a minute or less. But every once in a while, a biggie shows up, and I suggest you find yourself some quiet time and process it. And don’t be surprised if you  have to process it several times over a number of days or a week, or more. That can happen for some of your deep wounds from childhood.

   Yes. But you can scribble or use shorthand. I say this because if you’re doing it in your head, your subconscious will find something else to think about right about in the middle of processing.
   Also, keep track of your creations. They’ll serve as inspiration for the future.
   We’ve had a tragedy in our family. I keep thinking it’s partly my fault because of my Is it best to do The Happiness Path once a day or once a week?
   At least once a day. At first when you’re just learning the process, it seems to take a bit of time. But once you’re onto how it works, the actual process gets quite efficient.
   I’ve also found that for all the little things in life (i.e., finding parking spaces, getting places on time, getting chores done, etc.,) processing takes a minute or less. But every once in a while, a biggie shows up, and I suggest you find yourself some quiet time and process it. And don’t be surprised if you  have to process it several times over a number of days or a week, or more. That can happen for some of your deep wounds from childhood.

  When there’s been a tragedy, focus on what you want going forward. Feel how you feel, and then ask yourself what you fear to help you discover what you want.
   And while I say we create our experiences, I really think there are some things that happen to people (early death, extraordinary fame, etc.) because of their life paths.
   What you want to focus on is what you want to experience in the future. Do you want peace, or understanding, or healing? It’s a very personal question that only you can answer. But you must know what you want to bring the best of that experience into your life. 

   Sometimes I’m too mad or sad to process. What then? I very much understand what you mean. Sometimes I just want to be mad for twenty more minutes. But being mad for twenty more minutes just continues the creation of what I’m mad about. So I force myself. If I don’t, then I’m left to own the unpleasantness I’m creating. As my husband says, “Do you want to be happy, or right?” There’s a difference.

   When I’m angry, my friends tell me I should just let it go. I’m torn. What should I do? People who suggest just letting your feelings go, or let them pass through you, probably don’t understand the purpose of feelings. Your feelings tell you what you believe, and those beliefs become your future experience.
   Emotional pain, like physical pain, are your body’s and your psyche’s way of telling you to take care of yourself. Have hunger pains? You feed yourself. Have a toothache? You go to the dentist. Have anger or some other emotional pain? You need to nurture your thoughts.
   So if you’re angry, then you fear something negative. And if you fear something negative, you believe something negative, and that negative belief will in some fashion become itself in your future. That’s your fork in the road. Will you change the belief and experience something that makes you feel loved, or will you ignore the pain and belief, and continue experiencing negativity in your future.

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